Squirting Orgasms

So, the infamous squirting orgasm…who cares?

Well, typically women that can squirt find that the orgasms they have where they squirt to be more intense, and more pleasurable, than orgasms where they do not. They also just feel different, and sometimes people are in the mood for different sensations.

As mentioned at the end of the chapter on the G-Spot, a squirting orgasm is heavily dependent on your partners frame of mind. Women often find sex, and especially orgasm depends heavily on how they feel emotionally, how comfortable they are, and that they feel safe with their partner; this is safe both physically and emotionally – free of judgement.

If your partner doesn’t feel safe and free of judgement or expectation, then they will almost certainly not squirt. It can be helpful to grab a towel and put that bad boy under your partners hips; many women will actively stop themselves from squirting because they are afraid, self-conscious, or embarrassed about the idea of ‘making a mess’. Go and grab a towel, put I under your partners hip, lay it so it extends down under their thighs. Remind them that they don’t have to hold themselves back or deny themselves any pleasure; simply grabbing a towel may be reassuring and comforting enough for some people.

Finally, talk with your partner about this, outside of the bedroom, while you are both still clothed and not doing anything sexual. Start the conversation early about whether or not they can squirt, if they want to, if they are comfortable or embarrassed by it, and anything they need to achieve a squirting orgasm. The importance of communication here cannot be overstated. Communicate to your partner that you are enthusiastic about giving her a squirting orgasm, and that you would like to know anything she needs to be able to achieve one.

Having this conversation, and communicating early, will very likely make your partner feel massively relieved and reassured, it also helps to eliminate the ‘forbidden’ vibe of this topic. It can also head off any thoughts or concerns that might stress your partner out before they can even crop up. That said, if your partner tells you that they know squirting isn’t something they’re comfortable with, simply say that it’s something you’re enthusiastic to do for her and leave it at that. It is not appropriate to try to convince your partner into being ok or comfortable with something they’ve told you they do not want to do.

So, how do you make someone squirt?

Simply put; rub their G-Spot in the motion described in the previous chapter; top-to-bottom with firm, consistent pressure towards their front, until you feel the G-Spot swell (or your partner starts getting enthusiastic), then change absolutely nothing until they squirt.

But let’s discuss this a bit further…

Some women are self-conscious about squirting because it is a larger than normal volume of fluid being expelled from their urethra. It is common for women to be concerned about making a mess. The other contributing factor to the often-felt self-consciousness is a misunderstanding that the fluid produced is urine; it is not. Chemical analysis of the fluid produced when a woman squirts (commonly called “female ejaculate”), reveals that it is distinct from urine. This stigma likely comes from the knowledge that as a woman is getting ready to squirt, her bladder rapidly fills with fluid. This fluid is produced by organs and structures other than the kidneys, the Skene’s glands being among them (the Skene’s glands are the structure that produce natural vaginal lubrication).

Some studies claim that this is a method for the body to protect the urinary tract and bladder against irritation (as pressure applied to the G-Spot also applies pressure to both the urinary tract and bladder). Because of this, some women will report ‘squirting’ (producing a moderate to large amounts of fluid) but not experiencing orgasm. This is something useful to keep in mind; be on the lookout for all the usual signs of an orgasm to make sure you don’t fall victim to the trap of thinking “oh cool, I’ve made her squirt, she came, I’ve done my job”. It’s a rare trap, but it happens.

To repeat, although the fluid expelled from the urinary tract when a woman experiences a squirting orgasm is first collected in the bladder, it is produced by structures other than those that produce urine and is chemically different from urine. Let’s end the stigma around this unique type of orgasm.

As mentioned at the start of this chapter, you will not always be able to make your partner squirt; if they are not in the right headspace then no amount of correct technique and stimulation will make them squirt. The technique is rather simple and there’s not much nuance to it, as the work is done before you are intimate with your partner. That said; there are ways to make your life easier and reduce the likelihood you need to interrupt your partners pleasure.

You reduce your chances of fatiguing your fingers before the work is done by slightly flexing your fingers into an upwards curl and keeping them there as you move your fingers in and out of your partner (as we discussed in the chapter on the G-Spot). Make sure to use plenty of lube before you start doing this so you don’t have to stop midway through, and be careful of your nails. If these two cautionary points are unfamiliar to you, return to the last 3rd of the chapter on the G-Spot.

Bonus: go back and read the previous chapter on the G-Spot and look at the bonus section. Increasing the pressure on the internal parts of your partners clitoris and other sexual anatomy, may make it much more likely that your partner will squirt. There is a hypothesis that squirting is a way to protect the urinary tract from irritation if it is ‘stimulated’ (mechanically stressed) too much. This is supported by the observation that some women will squirt while also reporting not feeling an orgasm. Often squirting and orgasm happen together, however, and for those that enjoy it, the increase in internal pressure also increases their feeling of pleasure. You will have to discuss this open and honestly with your partner and see what they find enjoyable, you’ll also possibly need to do a bit of experimentation and exploration to find out what works for you and your partner to bring about a squirting orgasm.

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